SEXUAL CONSENT

                   SEXUAL CONSENT

 

HELLO EVERYONE! When was the last time you and your partner performed SEXUAL ACTIVITIES together? How did it feel? Were you both involved in it or was it just from one side? Did you ask or take their CONSENT before taking the initiative?

If YES then I am impressed but if NO then you need to read this blog. In today’s blog, we shall know about CONSENT, not in general terms but in sexual terms which is known as SEXUAL CONSENT. So let’s begin!

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WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU WANT TO BORROW SOMETHING FROM SOMEONE? DO YOU JUST TAKE IT AWAY OR DO YOU ASK FOR THEIR PERMISSION?

YES OFC YOU ASK FOR PERMISSION. THAT IS WHAT CONSENT IS. IT MEANS PERMISSION OR APPROVAL.

IN SEXUAL TERMS IT IS THE PERMISSION TO INVOLVE IN SEXUAL ACTIVITIES. STAY HOOKED TILL THE END TO KNOW MORE ABOUT SEXUAL CONSENT.

 

1. WHAT IS CONSENT?

Consent
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  • Consent means actively agreeing to be SEXUAL with someone.

  • It is an agreement to participate in sexual activity.

  • It lets the other person know that they are completely fine in getting sexual with them.

  • Before getting sexual with someone it is very important to know if they want to be sexual or not because SEX OR SEXUAL ACTIVITY WITHOUT CONSENT IS RAPE.

  • CONSENT is about setting boundaries of what you want and also respecting those boundaries of your partner.

  • CONSENSUAL MEANS THAT BOTH THE PARTNERS, EVERY TIME, AGREE TO GET SEXUAL.

  • It is and should always be in your hand. It is your decision if you want to involve or not.

  • Doesn’t matter if you and your partner have been sexual before or if it was a YES earlier.

  • You have the complete authority to say a ‘NO’ or ‘STOP’ anytime you want.

  • This implies not just for a single partner but for both the partners involving in the process.

  • YOU NEED TO ALWAYS RESPECT THE DECISION OF YOUR PARTNER EVEN IF IT IS NOT IN THE WAY YOU THOUGHT IT TO BE.

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  • It isn’t related to your past behavior or your clothes or the place.

  • SILENCE DOESN’T MEAN A YES. Consent needs to be communicated very clearly.

  • Couples who have had sex before or are doing it for a long time should also ask for it every time.

  • AN INTOXICATED PERSON CANNOT GIVE CONSENT LEGALLY.

  • There are laws to protect people under the age of 18 years from being forced to have Sex.

  • This age might vary for different countries. 

 2. WHAT IS THE IMPORTANCE OF CONSENT ?

  •  Consent is honest, mutual, and clear.

  • It can never be ASSUMED, it always needs to be SPOKEN and VERBAL.

  • It doesn’t just need to be asked at the beginning but at every moment you plan to go a step ahead of SEXUAL INTIMACY.

  • Permission isn’t granted automatically even if you are in a relationship.

Rape
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  • ALSO, THE ABSENCE OF A ‘NO’ OR ‘SILENCE’ DOES NOT MEAN ‘YES.

  • This YES should be from BOTH THE PARTNERS.

  • CONSENT TO ANY SEXUAL ACTIVITY IS IMPORTANT TO PREVENT FROM SEXUAL ASSAULT AND RAPE.

  • SEXUAL ACTIVITY WITHOUT CONSENT IS CONSIDERED TO BE RAPE.

  • Asking and getting consent shows that you have respect for both yourself and your partner.

  • Your body and your SEXUALITY belongs to you hence you have the entire decision in your hand.

  • It is not just about a yes or no but also about knowing what your partner feels.

  • Ask your partner how they feel and what they would like to do. That will enhance trust and also understanding.

Also read HOW TO PROTECT YOURSELF FROM SEXUAL ASSAULT AND RAPE.

3. HOW DO I ASK FOR CONSENT OR TALK ABOUT IT?

  • Talking and asking for consent doesn’t have to be awkward, serious, or scary.

  • Asking for what you and your partner want is just being clear with your needs and wants.

  • It means respecting each other’s boundaries and keeping in mind the limits.

  • Also doing things the way you both want can make you feel more turned on.

How to ask for Consent?
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  • So now, HOW DO YOU ASK FOR CONSENT?

  • IT IS SIMPLE.

  • START WITH A STATEMENT ASKING, “MAY I?”, “SHALL WE”? AND THEN WAIT FOR YOUR PARTNER’S ANSWER.

  • If it is a YES then go for it but if it is a NO then STOP.

  • SILENCE DOES NOT MEAN A ‘YES’.

  • THE TONE, BODY LANGUAGE, AND FACE GESTURES ALSO MATTER A LOT.

  • If it’s a YES from their side and they still feel uncomfortable then check on them saying, “ITS OK IF YOU DONT WANT TO DO THIS WE CAN TRY SOMETHING ELSE.

  • “Pressuring your partner for any kind of sexual activity isn’t correct.

  • You need to respect their boundaries and feelings and make them feel respected.

  • Forcing can also RUIN YOUR RELATIONSHIP SO ITS GOOD TO STOP IT RIGHT AWAY IF YOU ARE DOING IT.

  • If your partner forces you very often for Sexual activities then that is a sign of an UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP.

  • You need to think about the relationship if this behavior keeps on repeating.

4. CONSENT EDUCATORS 

Sex educators
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  • Sex Consent educators conduct workshops on sex, sexuality, relationships, consent, and sexual assault.

  • They have included gender studies and women’s studies students, university graduates interested in social justice, sexual health educators, domestic violence prevention advocates, and theater professionals.

  • These educator’s positions is inclusive of diverse “gender identities, racial backgrounds, sexual orientations, and sexual experiences.

  • Yale University hires Communication and Consent Educators, who are students who lead workshops and training and start conversations about sex and consent.

  • In January 2018,  Jaclyn Friedman wrote an article about the news commentary regarding comedian Aziz Ansari and sexual consent.

  • Friedman called for the need to “better educate young people in this country about sex, and pleasure” by using consent education to teach about sexual communication, awareness of body language, and the need for checking in (if it not clear that the partner is enjoying the activities).

  • The Consent Academy in Seattle is a collective of sex therapists, counselors, and educators who teach “consent culture”, provide one-on-one consultations, review consent policies, and provide “consent advocates” for hire. (Courtesy- Wikipedia)

Thank you for reading it till the end . Hope this was helpful for you all. Let’s stay in touch with each other everyday through my Instagram acc (sexandgk) where I will be updating you regularly.

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