7 REASONS WHY YOU DO NOT ENJOY SEX

Hello everyone! Sex is a process which majority of people practise. But , do you think everybody enjoys it too? If YES then you are completely mistaken. Many people practise sex just by pressure but do not really enjoy it . Some just don’t practice it because they do not wish to.If you are not enjoying sex then that is obvious you will be wondering WHY ?The fact is that our SEX DRIVES are imapcted by many different things.Your mental and physical health both can be the reason a of a LOW LIBIDO. It is determined by many factors and keeps on changing depending on WHAT’S GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE. HERE ARE THE 7 REASONS WHY YOU DO NOT ENJOY SEX.

So let’s begin.

1. YOU ARE NOT MENTALLY OR EMOTIONALLY READY FOR IT.

Emotional instability can lead to low libido
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  • SEX isn’t something that will happen in heat of the moment.

  • Your MIND AND BODY BOTH SHOULD EQUALLY BE READY FOR IT.

  • Coasts said, “Context is everything.”

  • For example, If you return home from a long day of work feeling anxious or upset due to the fight with maybe your boss and your partner tries to make sexual contact with you then you are most likely to say a NO or not get into the process.

  • Context includes a variety of things including your environment or the stressors around you.

  • It even includes the state of the relationship you are in with your partner.

  • This is one of the main reasons why you do not enjoy sex.

2. YOU ARE DEALING WITH UNACCEPTANCE WITH YOUR BODY OR APPEARANCE.

Loving your body is important for good libido
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  • Sex is an extremely OPEN and VULNERABLE SITUATION.

  • You may not feel like having sex if you are UNCOMFORTABLE IN YOUR OWN SKIN.

  • ANXIETY IS THE ENEMY OF DESIRE AND PLEASURE.
  • In order to enjoy sexual pleasure you need to be ready in the situation with YOUR ENTIRE BODY.

  • If you are uncomfortable in your body then none of your attention will be on the process.

  • You may not feel like having sex even if you are or might have had experienced BODY SHAMING.

  • THE MORE YOU ACCEPT YOURSELF THE BETTER SEXUAL PLEASURE YOU EXPERIENCE.

3. YOU ARE UNCOMFORTABLE ABOUT YOUR PAST SEXUAL EXPERIENCES.

Past sexual experiences can affect your libido..
Healthline
  • If you had a bad sexual experience in the past then it can be tough for you to practice sex.

  • This can also happen if you feel that your experience level is different from your partner’s level.

  • Another reason could be that you may feel afraid of your PARTNERS EXPECTATIONS.

  • Thoughts such as WILL I BE ABLE TO SATISFY HIM? WILL HE REALLY ENJOY THE PROCESS? can hinder you from having sex.

  • If, because of these reasons you find difficult to enjoy sex then it is because you’re constantly thinking of your past experiences and realting it to your present situations.

  • The best solution to overcome such fears have always been COMMUNICATION.

  • Communicating with your partner of WHAT and HOW you feel is really important.

  • This will lead to better understanding resulting in better SEXUAL EXPERIENCES.

4. YOU ARE NOT COMFORTABLE AROUND YOUR PARTNER.

Being uncomfortable around your partner can hinder your libido
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  • Sex involves great levels of intimacy and vulnerability.

  • If you are not comfortable with him/her then it will really be difficult for you to enjoy sex.

  • It is sometimes tough to be comfortable because in this process you offer each other YOUR BODY, the most precious part of your life.

  • Hence being COMFORTABLE with your partner is really important.

  • Some bad experiences or behaviour of your partner may also lead to uncomfortness.

  • This might also be the reason why people do not enjoy sex.

  • MORE THE TRUST LEVEL – MORE THE COMFORT LEVEL.

5. YOU FEEL SHAME ABOUT YOUR SEXUAL NEEDS OR WANTS.

Feeling shame about your sexual needs can hinder enjoying sex
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  • Everybody is different from each other and so are their SEXUAL DESIRES.

  • You should not feel SHAMEFUL OR GUILTY to have sexual desires different from your partner.

  • If you are scared of how your desires are different from your partner’s, you may not be able to express it to them.

  • If you fail at expressing it then you might not enjoy the process.

  • Sexuality is a wide spectrum and everyone has different wants, and desires.

  • Sex is all about exploring.

  • Hence opening up to your partner about how you feel good is a must.

  • Also understanding what they like matters too.

  • Because unless there is understanding there won’t be enjoyment.

  • And hence, this is one of the main reasons why you do not enjoy sex.

6. YOU ARE BEEN GIVEN FALSE MESSAGES ABOUT SEX.

False messages can hinder enjoying sex
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  • Not everything you once heard about sex is TRUE.

  • You may believe in thing’s you’ve heard about sex from others.

  • You may also believe in stereotypes about sex which may seep into your sex life.

  • There might be many things which you believe without even experiencing them.

  • There is abundance of misguidance and fakeness spread around regarding sex.

  • This may lead to a reason of people not enjoying sex.

  • Hence READING, UNDERSTANDING AND RECOGNISING BETWEEN THE RIGHT AND WRONG IS ESSENTIAL.

7. YOU ARE ON MEDICATION THAT IMPACTS YOUR LIBIDO.

Ongoing medication can hinder enjoying sex
Ivan Bajic
  • ANTIDEPRESSANTS usually cause a decrease in SEXUAL DESIRE.

  • You might not be aware of the link of your medications to your sex drive.

  • But plenty of prescripted medications can have an impact on your sex drive.

  • This includes BIRTH CONTROL,ANTI

  • ANXIETY MEDICATIONS OR EVEN ALLERGY MEDICATIONS.

  • Several medications can affect not only libido, but also the sexual experience in men and women,” said Dr. Ingber.

  • Antidepressants cause a decrease in sexual desire and interfering with the ability to orgasm.”

  • If you think a certain medication is causing a lowness in your libido or ability to orgasm, it is recommended to check it with a Dr. soon.

So here were the reasons why you do not wish of having sex. There is nothing to worry about any of these above mentioned reasons. Everything has a solution. So whenever you notice a lowness on your libido check it with your doctor. The doctor will always give you a solution and calm you down.

Also, I will give you the names of the top sexologists in my next blog. You can contact them in case of any consultance. So STAY TUNED FOR MY NEXT BLOG.

CHILL AND GREAT SEX TO YOU ALL.

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